Ahhhhh…. September, we love the pumpkin spice lattes, falling leaves and the promise of cooler weather.
We just crossed over into November and I don’t know if you are like me, but panic is setting in a bit because my calendar is full, my checkbook isn’t feeling the holiday needs, and there simply doesn’t seem to be enough time to get it all done.
I have a love/hate thing going on with the holidays. I was laughing because Kayla and Nik actually carved pumpkins last night (November 1). This is Nik’s first time carving pumpkins and the time just got away. I am so proud that they decided to do it anyway. They drank champagne and decided to make a night of it.
This is normal for my family. We don’t play by the rules all the time. I don’t know if it is my defiant attitude or just how things were. When the kids were growing up, divorce had a way of making holidays feel “weird”. I will never forget one of the first years of my divorce, where three of my daughters went to visit their dad and Kayla and I were home alone that year. Kayla made the decision (in high school) to wait to celebrate Christmas until the girls got home. This was a full week after Christmas. The girls were so surprised and so grateful and what a beautiful gift Kayla had given the family. It still felt weird. Things do when there is change.
We had to learn that the “day” wasn’t the most important thing. We could celebrate differently than everyone else. We could carve pumpkins on a Thursday night, by the fire, and no trick or treaters to enjoy our creations. It just happens.
The other thing we had to learn was that we didn’t have to stop celebrating. When things get too difficult to plan the tendency is to just forget trying. We coast.[true story] Imagine if you will, sitting in your chair scrolling through the channels to find Hallmark Christmas movies and the doorbell rings. This was me. I jumped up to get the door, most likely a delivered package only to find three small girls dressed in princess costumes saying “trick or treat”. At first I couldn’t figure out what was happening, this did not look like a delivery guy or a package. My mind started spinning with questions like, “what day is it?” “what time of day is it?” and then the slow dreaded realization creeping in…”OMG I FORGOT HALLOWEEN!”
I wish I could tell you this was a hypothetical example, but sadly I cannot. You see, for awhile I just kind of floated through the holidays, the kids got older, and it just seemed like too much work.
(But this is not how I want to live, just existing)
I regrouped, promised the girls that we would have candy in 30 minutes and to please come back. I dressed Nash up in his costume.
I threw pumpkins out on the porch and sent a frenzied text to my girls to “PICK UP CANDY!! ASAP” on their way home from work. I live in a predominantly retired area and they were our only trick or treaters that night. Still worth it!
Those sweet girls came back and were delighted with the candy and Nash’s costume. It felt good to make those girls smile. I am happy I got up and participated. We got inspired to watch scary movies, really Harry Potter, and participated in a very human experience.
In an effort to be more present this month, we have included a free download for November on setting intentions.
When I just think about the holidays, I get surprised by trick or treaters. When I set intentions and plan on how I want to celebrate,
it won’t be perfect, but it will be meaningful…
and… there is more opportunity for really cool things to happen.it
Enjoy the PDF and let me know how your Halloween/Holiday went in the comments!!
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